Mid-life Without the Crisis

It really isn't the destination, but the journey. May be cliche, but it's true.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

You Have the Right to Remain Silent....

I'm sure we've all heard the Miranda Warning on our favorite cop show.  It's a Supreme Court mandated way of ensuring individuals who are arrested are aware of their rights.

..."Everything you say can and will be used against you..."  That's the portion that has a tendency to creep from the legal world into our everyday lives.  You probably have a friend or family member like that.  They remember exactly what you said on October 12, 1975.  Or how you reacted when you got mad at them and every angry word you said.  And they make sure to remind you of just exactly what those words were.

I think it's safe to say that we all have said things we regret.  Sometimes we regret them the minute we hear them come out of our mouths; other times we regret them when we calm down.  Whenever we come to regret something we said, however, we don't want that friend standing there reminding us of just what was said.

So is the solution to issue a "Friendship Miranda" to people to let them know we're going to hold everything they say against them?  No.  The solution is to learn to let things go.  Forgive.  Forget.  Move on.  If a friendship is worth having, then you should not be holding words against one another.

Don't Mirandize your friends and family.  Let them off the hook.